Loyalty: ‘a strong feeling of allegiance to something or someone’. In this post, I’d like to explore the idea that while loyalty is a good things, there can also be a dark side to it. I’m an incredibly loyal individual; whether it’s with people or brands, I tend to form an attachment easily and stay devoted for a very long time. This makes me a good friend - I’m the type of person who’s always on the other end of the phone to talk, and I do a lot for my friends because I value my relationships very highly. 

So loyalty’s a good thing, right? Well, there is indeed a dark side to showing this much devotion to something or someone in your life: what happens when they don’t appreciate it? Also, what happens if they go away? For me, being a good friend to someone (or possibly even taking the relationship a little further) is a reason for me to get up in the mornings. I’ve used this phrase before, but what happens when one of the reasons you get up in the morning suddenly disappears? To an extent, it is easy to deal with this sort of thing, but when it comes to someone you’ve loved for a very, very long time, things get a little more significantly more difficult. 

The more devotion you show toward someone, the harder it is to deal with the pain when they go away. I’m not saying by any means that I’m now going to be a cold-hearted individual who doesn’t let people get close for fear of loss, because I don’t think I can change. Thing is, there are times when it isn’t your fault that these people go away, and if when you’ve been the most loyal and devoted person to them for so long, then it can take days, weeks, or even months to get over it. That’s why my loyalty is a trait, but also a huge downfall.